Thursday 28 February 2013

Friends to Lovers - Can She Become More Than Just Your Friend....!?


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The interesting thing about trying to be friends with a woman you are attracted to is, as the friendship progresses, you can easily find that what you feel is no longer just attraction, you can end up feeling like you really are in love with her. When that happens and you finally realize that you really do feel that way about her, it can be hard to be around her because you know what you want things to be like and you know that for now, all you really can do is just be her friend. Is there a way that you can somehow change that and make her think of you as being more of a lover and less of a friend?

There is - but, it certainly isn't an easy thing to do. One of the biggest mistakes that a guy can make is to try to just be friends with a woman that he feels very much attracted to. Sure, you might hear about a celebrity couple that got together that way, but you have to remember that they live in a totally different world. What works for them may not work for you and for most regular guys - trying to be a woman's friend first usually puts them square in the friend zone with no way out. So, the best thing that you can do is to make sure that you don't take that approach in the first place.

What if you are already there, though?

You need to get out and by that I mean, you need to stop being that friend that she has grown used to having around all of the time. Each and every time that I have seen a guy actually take a friendship into becoming something more than that, it was because he finally changed the way that he behaved around her and as a result of that behavioral change, it forced her to see him in a different light.

Distance is what you need if you are going to make the transition. It's not going to happen right away, and you need a little bit of distance between you and her. That doesn't mean that you have to literally move or anything like that. It means that you have to get a little bit busy living your own life and doing your own thing.

It's far easier to change the way that she sees you and the way that you behave around her when you have a little distance as a buffer for a little while. Another thing that you really have to do is to start acting like a guy who is actually attracted to her for more than just friendship. You can't be the guy that is going to go to see a movie with her as just friends. Do something like that and it needs to be in the context of it being a date.

As long as you keep doing those kinds of things in the context of just two friends hanging out - then that is what she is going to assume that it is. Change the context and you just might change the way that she feels about you.

Is it possible to go from friends to lovers with a woman?

You bet it is.

Is it going to happen if you keep doing the same things and expect a different result?

Nope.